In pursuit of a better life – new job, relationship, less stuff, less fear, better health – we are asked to give up something near and dear to us.
In order to have something new and good, there needs to be a letting go of what got you this far.
I loathe the term “just let it go” as it’s extremely difficult to do without the right set of tools. What is hard to let go of is so because it has great value or meaning whether positive or negative and will be worked with respectfully. Telling someone to just “let it go” is like telling a butterfly to stop flapping its wings – certain behaviors are wired automatically but there are tools for change.
Back on topic:
One of the more powerful tools that can help the tradeoff of change happen – giving up in order to receive – with more ease and grace is gratitude.
If you find yourself wanting something better yet are having a hard time actually letting go or giving up something to welcome a better future, here are a few questions you can use to assist your process:
What are you struggling to let go of (or what’s struggling to let go of you)?
How has that “thing” (behavior, belief or feeling) been useful in your life? What good has come out of that “thing”?
What will you gain by giving up ________ and by gaining ______? (fill in the blanks)
True for false statement:
Until we make peace with what needs to be “let go”, that thing will keep coming back over and over.
There are very supportive, curious and effective tools to support the change you desire for yourself.
Thank you for being here and exploring how and what those tools are, and how I can best assist you in having more of what you want with a lot less struggle.