It’s hard to look to your husband, lover, children, your job, money or therapist to make you happy and feel loved.

At a meta level, it’s not their function nor is it within their capacity to do so.

Yes, it feels incredible to be loved and to love others but it’s even more powerful to find the One within first and have the most ravishing relationship with that.

To love self first, and to be loved by self first before all others is one of the most profound relationship I believe someone can have.

Is this easier said than done? It can be. This can be challenging (at first) if this is unfamiliar behavior, or if there has been past neglect, abuse or betrayal but there is always a way towards greater love and healing with the right tools, consideration and support.

There’s always a way towards greater love and healing.

Turning love’s gaze within, first, is a powerful way to exist in the world and can greatly impact the quality of your relationship with others. If this foreign or uncomfortable, it can be a learned behavior or capability.

If one person can do something, it is possible to model it and teach it to someone else.

Ashley Paquin
November 3, 2022